I know that I may step on more than a few toes with this post, but I truly believe that this is the best advice that I have to give newly married couples. It’s pretty simple to understand, but very difficult to actually implement!
So here it is: Live off of one spouses’ earnings and put 100% of the other’s spouses earnings in some type of savings account that is not easily accessible. (always have a 3 to 6 months of living expenses in an emergency savings that is easily accessible.. but that’s a subject for another post!)
I wish that someone had counseled us to consider this prior to our leap into home ownership before we had even brought home our first double paychecks! Seriously considering the wisdom of setting a couple’s standard of living at one spouse’s earnings level is perhaps even more important in the economic environment of today with the increasing lack of job security.
For any readers who may be at this stage of life or newly married, let me share our experience! As a newly married couple, my spouse and I both had recently graduated from college with professional level jobs and salaries of more than we imagined that we could possibly spend! No more college living or generic canned goods and macaroni and cheese dinners for us!
Before we had even put a paycheck in the bank, we were out looking at new homes! We easily qualified for a loan on a custom built starter home (even though the interest rates were over 13% in the early 1980’s!) We purchased a few quality pieces of furniture, but didn’t go too overboard. We were both still driving our college cars; a ten year old Honda Civic 5 speed with no A/C and an even older Chevy Impala, so we weren’t exactly living the high life!
Some problems with the cars forced us to replace those, though we did purchase used, rather than new (a financial lesson that I learned from my father and have only broken once in my life!)
But there were quite a few expenses that we hadn’t considered…. property taxes on our brand new home, home, car and health insurance, eating out because neither of us were in the mood to cook after long days at the office, more gas money to commute to jobs in the city from our suburban haven!
All that money that we couldn’t imagine spending from our two paychecks wasn’t going as far as we thought!
About a year later, I was studying for the CPA exam and working 50-60 hours a week. I was tired all the time and then began having stomach pains, which I attributed to an ulcer. After a couple of months of these bothersome symptoms, I finally went to the doctor. As an educated woman, you would think that I would have previous considered the explanation that the physicain had: I was pregnant!
This was about ten years earlier than we had planned for this momentous news, but we were still thrilled! Until… a month later my husband was unexpectedly given his pink slip from his employer! Now we had issues!
No savings to speak of, a house payment based on both of our incomes and a baby on the way!
Everything worked out in the end, with hubby getting a job after about four months of unemployment, but the financial stress of those four months made it seem like four years!
We learned our lesson and the next home that we purchased was based on a budget with only one of us working. This allowed me the flexibility to stay home during the preschool years when my next two children were born.
In today’s economic environment of uncertainty, this advice would seem to make even more sense. It also allows the choice for mom to stay home if she wishes, rather than being enslaved to a mortgage payment.
I’ll share a story about from a realtor friend in my next post.